February 10

Jane Butterworth was born on February 10th 1948. She is the agony aunt of the News of the World and also writes health books. She has in the past worked as a health editor and writer for women's magazines and been the author of various teenage novels and handbooks. She lives with her husband Brian in rural Herefordshire and is working on her first adult novel.

Make peace before sleeping -

a tip from Jane Butterworth

If you've been rowing with your partner, be sure to make peace before going to sleep for the night. If you don't, you're likely to wake up feeling even more angry and resentful and to carry on the quarrel for the foreseeable future. Making up not only clears the air, it gives you the perfect opportunity to get closer by making love.

Jane Butterworth adds: This is something I learnt from my husband, although it is hardly original. I'm a natural sulker, whereas my husband has the sort of sunny disposition which prevents him from staying angry for long, no matter how immense the provocation. He made me realise that keeping a quarrel going overnight was the surest way of undermining our relationship and that sulking is utterly futile.

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